Is this just something like mother-in-law jokes, or do these wives actually exist? I’m always slightly amused when I see posts with members saying that their wife is gonna kill or castrate them because they’ve spent too much money on snuffboxes or snuff or pipes or whatever. I guess the anti-smoking attitude might come into play, or even a generally anti-tobacco attitude. I’m aware that some members are students or not working or supporting families on limited incomes in high-cost environments. But I was lucky, my last serious partner thought snuff taking was cool and interesting, particularly in the early days. And my ex-wife, for all her other little flaws and foibles, generally took the attitude that I could buy what I liked so long as I fulfilled certain financial obligations first. We were both working, and I wouldn’t have dreamed of telling her that she should buy a bargain-basement lipstick or that skin creams were scientifically proven to be a waste of money. I’ve long abandoned hopes of fostering social revolutions in my life time, and it just didn’t seem like it would be a winner. Again, flaws and foibles notwithstanding, I appreciated that she showed the same attitude towards my purchases.

So, I’m never really sure whether to take these jokes seriously. Do these wives who stand over you and check your credit card purchases really exist, or is it just a self-deprecating joke that people on tobacco forums like to make?

Sorry, I’m bored. I’m meant to be working, but it’s the day before Christmas, laziness is in the air, and I just read a post with this kind of sub-text, and it made me smile.

Oh, and happy Christmas to all who celebrate it! And the rest of you, I hope you’re at least enjoying a public holiday.

EDIT: I guess I should add that I’m aware that women use tobacco, too. But I’ve never seen any of the few female members of snuffhouse say that their husband is going to kill them because they just bought a hundred grams of Roslein, so I’ll stick with my gender-specific language.

So long as the bills are paid, my cool missus couldn’t care less what I spend money on. She couldn’t complain when I switched to snuff from cigs anyway as it’s cut our tobacco bill in half - she’s still on the damn cigs. I’m working hard to turn her onto snuff and whilst she admits some of them smell very nice ( peanut butter makes her visibly retch - her loss!) , she still thinks putting a little tobacco powder up the nose is somehow worse than sucking its smoke into the lungs. And yes I too cringe when she comes home with all those anti-ageing creams and miracle skin potions etc etc but hey it’s harmless and if it makes her happy. I’m sure she can’t understand some of the stuff I buy but if I were denied them to save a few pennies here and there, I’d not be happy.

No problems here. My girlfriend thankfully gave up the cigs years before I met her but she does have the occasional single puff from one of my cigars!

She loves the aroma of GH Ennerdale when I have that in a pipe but I have not tried her with any heavy Latakia pipe tobaccos yet!

She sometimes complains of a stuffy nose so I have suggested a pinch of Poschl Gawith Apricot but she has not tried this yet - we shall see.

I don’t know about others, but for me such a statement reflects my struggle with various tobacco acquisition disorders. I already have enough pipes, cigars, tobacco, accessories, and snuff, yet… 

The wife, on the other hand knows this and dope-slaps me on occasion.

786 I suspect that most of the wives in question are more upset about the quantity of cash than they are about the product being purchased.

My ex-wife of twelve years loved it when I had a snuff whose scent she liked in my nose, because then when we got close she could smell it and she would say something like, wow, what do you smell like? or wow, you smell like an Indian temple! etc.  

However!  She could be extremely unreasonable about purchases.  After I was no longer smoking and no longer buying a fifth of gin every night, she would still cut up rough about me buying even small things, whilst she continued to smoke cigarettes.  It was absurd.  Fortunately I supervised the die-cast department of a factory and could have any packages sent to my workplace instead of the house.  I avoided many fights that way.  It was one thing if she saw that I had a tub of this or that snuff; she would just be like, what’s that one? Cool! or, let me smell it! 

Whereas had she been home when the package arrived, she would certainly have grilled me about the cost, and it would be a fight for a week or more.

She was willing to try different snuffs, and sometimes I’d send a tin of something she liked and a handkerchief with her when she went to work or out of town; but despite my best efforts I couldn’t make a snuffer out of her.

I’m still trying–we maintain friendly relations–and two days ago I sent her off with some Five Photo Himalaya Nasawar and some TPS Thangam Madras after instructing her in the straw method (thanks again @TobaccyLassy).  I’m praying that she’ll finally take to it and get off the death-sticks.

At least now I can have packages sent to my home without fearing a rebuke and an extended fight.

tl;dr version: my ex-wife wasn’t anti-tobacco, just anti-me spending money.

Yes, mine is even slightly annoyed at me for telling everyone all I want is money for Christmas. We cannot travel this year and I told my family that it would be easier to just send checks instead of gifts.She knows I will be spending it on tobacco and gets out of line about it even before I have the money is spent. I love her but sometimes I wish she would just shut up and leave me alone to enjoy my hobbies although I will admit snuff has become more of a habit than a hobby like the pipe and cigars.

“A woman is only a woman.  A good cigar is a smoke.”  Kipling had it right.

Find the right woman who understands you as you are, not as she wants you to be.  The same holds true in reverse.  Life is too short to live with someone, male or female, that doesn’t support their partner’s little quirks.

I’m on #2, and she’s a keeper, even though she does stay with WoS Raspberry.

#1 is in the running for Queen Bitch from Hell.

My Budget Director/wife/SWMBO isn’t anti tobacco or even anti me spending money…as long as the bills are paid . My wife and daughter are both disabled to the point I am the only income. My problem stems from I suck at money management. I’d buy snuff/snus/pipes first and pay bills later. According to my wife that is the wrong way. lol She does approve all my tobacco related purchases, but rarely denies me or complains as long as the necessities are covered first.  The problem for me is that with a small income it usually leaves little to buy large quantities with. 

On one pipe forum I see wife complaints about yet another gun purchase. It’s like the three stooges; woman just don’t get it. Boys need toys. Woman buy shoes? and handbags that cost more than mid range pipes. I don’t think they get the same pleasure or long term use out of either. Two closets full of dresses and complains I have nothing to wear. Love is a two way street.

 I had A BAG ONCE. I found out I am not codependant I also found out I am not a psychiatrist  trained to handle single woman of my age range. I need to search out more funerals if I want to find a bride.  

Thankfully my wife and I both enjoy our pipe and cigars, and smoke them indoors, especially when the weather isn’t nice. Do any peoples’ spouses fear 2nd-hand effects from snuff or snus?

I do see a lot of posts in other forums about pipe and cigar smokers getting exiled outside to have their smoke, even in freezing temps. The rationales generally run along the line of “allergy” to smoke or dread of giving the kids emphysema. I think if I really had no choice but to take it outside, I would either build a heated smoking booth in the garage (with air filtration system), or else go all out and construct an outbuilding smoking den with woodstove, entertainment system and cozy leather chair.

One situation I did read about where I felt sympathy for the wife is a dude who went nuts on cigarbid while his wife was pregnant and money was not free to be spent. He hid the many boxes of cigars he won, but his wife found them. The tale was shared by this fellow because he urgently needed buyers for his cigars to recover the money squandered. Moral of the story: unless you have agree-upon “mad money” budgets, always consult with the spouse before doing something impulsive and costly.

In a way, I suppose. My wife would rather smell the smoke of a cigarette than the snuff on my exhaled air. It doesn’t matter how much money is being saved, she just “can’t stand it.” 

She tried to use a lack of sex and togetherness to get me to see things her way… didn’t work so well.  Then she tried to complain about every aspect of snuff constantly.  This caused me to resume smoking, when she is home.  After a while, she mentioned something about me smoking outside, my reply was a simple “fuck you, not gonna happen.”

Except for that, she is not constantly on my case over money, she knows I put bills first, she just hates all tobacco as a born-again-ex-smoker. 

786 @Pennanngalan, ouch!  That takes the cake.  

Years ago some friends and I made a list of “Characteristics of Girls.”  One of the items on the list was: “All girls are crazy.  Some girls are crazier than others.”
Agree wholeheartedly with @chefdaniel; my third wife is going to be a different creature from the first two models.  I can’t avoid the crazy–I am convinced of that–but when I’m healthy again I’m going to do my damnedest to find one who is less crazy than others.  

Wow, looking at some of these stories, my wife is pretty awesome! She has always been supportive of all of my hobbies (maybe not always enthusiastic, but supportive). All of my current tobacco restrictions are self imposed. For example, I do take my pipes and cigars to the garage, where I have a good space heater and leather chair. This works out, as when my wife and kids see me going out there, they know I’m taking an hour of “me” time, and I think any of you with a busy family can appreciate the value of being left alone for a while every now and then. It would be the same if I were a bachelor living alone. I just don’t like my house smelling like stale smoke. Personal preference. I have also imposed limitations myself out of consideration for those around me. My wife is pregnant (we’ve known for a few months, but yesterday started the 2nd trimester, so now I’m allowed to talk about it on here), and a bit more sensitive to certain smells, so when being around me in early fall with my autumn snuffs made her LITERALLY vomit, I traded all of my autumn snuffs for the year off for less irritating alternatives. Not to “make the wife happy”, but because I love her, she is carrying my child, and her ability to hold food down comes before my having ANOTHER 20 scents to rotate through every day. I also, while reviewing finances to cover this pregnancy and the first year, decided that I am spending WAY too much on my TAD. There was a month over the spring where I spent more on tobacco than I did on food, which is a problem when you’re supporting a wife and two kids, so I just put myself on a budget, and decided to do a massive giveaway in January on my channel, because for some reason having mountains of tins I will probably never go through seems to reinforce my drive to aquire more. None of this would be an issue if I made more money, but truth is I work in a factory, and if I’m really to look at this as more of a hobby than a habbit, then it should be no issue curtailing it when it starts threatening the well being of the people I have promised to support and care for. Failing to do that, I would have to seriously reassess the nature of my relationship with tobacco.

786 OOO, Congratulations are in order! Here’s to the easy delivery of a healthy new family member at the end of a trouble free pregnancy. Cheers!

@slobandtom Thank you!

You’re a good man, Hitsuzen. 

Hitsuzen, congratulations! I hope the new child brings happiness to you all!

@Mouse I’ll take your word for it :(|) @JakartaBoy Thank you! Sorry all, didn’t intend to hijack the thread. Just knew for so long without being able to talk about it, and then this topic came up and it fit with what I had to say.

My girlfriend, a nurse, hates that i consume snuff. She has done a lot of research in trying to prove that its unhealthy but has only came up with nasal irritation and the potential increase in symptoms of seasonal allergies. I generally make my own so the cost is very low, about $20 a pound, so she cant even complain about that. I just think that its the ani-tobacco retoric that is all too prevelant in the U.S. Ive agreed not to partake in front of her or her family and she leaves me alone about partaking in the pleasure.

Congratulations @Hitsuzen , me and my wife are blessed with 4 beautiful girls and I couldn’t agree more with your statement. I restrict my own spending and actions because I look to ensure the financial well being of my family. My wife and kids are glad that I was finally able to quit Copenhagen and support my habit of choice. My three year old, when asked by my wife what to get dad for his birthday replied “Dad likes coffee and snuff for his nose do let’s get him some of those”.

My wife hates the snuff, she finds it odd and gross. But she likes the two pack a day cigarette savings so she doesn’t say much unless I use one of the few snuffs she finds particularly offensive (I’m looking at you gekachelter virginie). It is a habit for me, not a hobby, but at least it is a significantly cheaper habit which is better for my wife and kids also. @hitsuzen congratulations on your good news here’s to the best for you and yours in the new year.

The Volcano Lady was, as I said, quite taken by snuff in general, but she hated Dholakia White when I took it. It often made her cough and splutter and groan about “secondary snuffing.”

I think its a shame that some people, women or men want to be controlling about what their partner spends on hobbies / stuff whatever. As long as there is an agreement that priorities are set, then each should be able to indulge in what one enjoys. I know men who dont approve of their female partners spending money on handbags, haircuts dresses etc, and equally know there are women moanng about money men spend on snuff, pipes, guns etc. I think it is sad. I know I am blessed with a husband who likes me for my quirks, snuff, pipes and all.

The wife is not a fan of tobacco at all.

She is not the “credit card scanning” type of person but she is aware of what I buy.

I vape although Im not a big fan of putting stuff in your lungs on purpose. After talking to her she is cool with snuff, Im still a pipe tobacco lover and that she constantly complains.

The smells give her headache and I try to smoke away from her.