My wonderful Lady and I celebrated our 35th wedding Anniversary the 21st. edm

Congratulation that is wonderful ,May you have 35 more. I did it once lets just say it was an experience. And a chapter of my life that is past.

@mustangii Congrats to you and your wife.

Congratulations! Yes, we have been married for 13 years. My hubby is my best friend too.

Congrats. 35 years sounds like a very long time. I’m into my 15th year. I’m surprised she still puts up with me.

married 23 years. Best time of my life.

Just coming up to 14 years and still no closer to understanding women. But it’s all good.

Congrats to you all for going so long … mustangii, happy anniversary! I was married for 10 years … that ended 4 years ago … and believe it or not, i am gonna give it another whirl, you would’ve thought i’d learn my lesson … getting married October 6th. See if we can push this to 35 years like you and yours mustangii!

Second time around, 19 years and she is great, the love of my life. My first was a nightmare - 5 years that felt like 500.

Congrats, Ed. I’ve been married for about 1.5 years, so far everything has been wonderful!

no and never. Though my girlfriend and lifepartner (same person by the way) have spent almost 12 years in hell together (a little bit of a joke, but not too much really) and still think she’s the coolest person I’ve known.

Been married for 11 years and I’ve been in a polyamorous relationship for at least a year now I think.

@joesnuffer … from wikipedia … “practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved” … i mean, i certainly have had moments of desire, but that would not have gone over very well with the women in my life … so, which of the three; practice, desire or acceptance? and do tell if i am being too prying, it is interesting to me. working good so far? i must investigate!

First time 23 years, second 7 so far… Looking good for continuing!!!

I have found 3 little phrases that have helped me. I am sorry. It’s my fault. Please forgive me. I don’t use them all the time and sometimes she says that to me, too. Also have found that she wants me to just listen and not fix her problems. Also she is my best friend. edm

Yup 6 years now

Been married for just over 5 years now but have been together for over 10 years and gotta say I am pretty lucky. Being friends first and foremost is essential to a good marriage imo.

@snuffbrant I’m in what is considered a Triad in the polyamory community. Male, Male, Female with the female being my wife of course. So we have a boyfriend, we both have sex with him, we both go out and do things with him, and we are both friends with him. It’s going well so far, really the biggest hurdle I still have to jump, is dealing with jealousy when they are out doing things without me. Mastering jealousy is one of the biggest challenges I’ve ever faced. (even bigger than the challenges I faced when I was over in Iraq.) Also I guess I would fall under the practice and acceptance categories. We recently decided to be just a triad and not actively be out looking for other partners which is considered polyfidelity. Mostly because I didn’t want or need any drama in my house, one extra partner is enough. Let me know if you have any other questions and I will answer them as best as I can. :)>-

T. M. I.

@cstokes4 sorry. At least I didn’t talk about positions or anything of that nature right???

I meant to put a smiley. No worries @joesnuffer, it’s a free country.

@joesnuffer … i really appreciate your honesty … and maybe some consider it TMI … but frankly, honesty is the best policy. As long as you all are happy … and in love … that’s the real winner right there. Hats off to you … and I mean that sincerely. Thank you for sharing for those of us that were curious. I, am not poly-curious, , just curious. I am pretty certain I am petty, and jealousy would take its toll on me.

@snuffbrant Hey no problem. I’m a pretty honest dude!

@joesnuffer @snuffbrant the jealousy would be my downfall, no matter what the mix is.

@cstokes4 I thought it would be for me too, but after sitting down and really thinking about it, I decided it was a win win for me. Someone else helps me pay bills, there is more love (nudge nudge wink wink) in the house, and I like seeing my wife happy and this makes her happy. The jealousy still comes up and when it does I just find something to take my mind off it (I have many hobbies) and talk about it with my wife. I have found that being in this type of relationship requires way more communication than I am used to. Keeps me on my toes.

I’ve been married for 3 years now. @joesnuffer I envy and congradulate you. I was in a poly relationship, exactly like yours actually, but it apparenly ended recently. I say apparently because the bastard skipped out on us without a words notice…my wife was heartbroken and angry…I was mostly just angry…but anyway, I’m glad the 3 of you have such a great thing going!

well this has gone off in a direction I didn’t expect, but that’s cool.

well this has gone off in a direction I didn’t expect, but that’s cool.

Thread drift…a plaque over all the internet. lol

1.5 years so far and going great. Hopefully, we will be able to celebrate a 35th anniversary some day!

@mustangii sorry man. Didn’t mean to derail the thread!!

I feel it still right on topic. Myself, I’ve been in a “Ready Made Family-Just Add Dad” for eight years now. Not as of yet married per-se, thats a long story. We have a daughter together and 3 boys hers. She is great, keeps the house in order, fields the finance planning(ie tells me when i can have snuff), and has sincere Love for me.

My wife of seventeen years and my dog of ten years are in a polyamorous relationship. Not the same thing I know but some of the dynamics relate.

@mustangii sorry man. Didn’t mean to derail the thread!!

Didn’t derail just different. I believe in monogamous relationships, One man, one woman, all that right wing Conservative stuff, but we won’t let let this thread degrade into a judgmental, religious debate.

Frankily I think honesty with yourselve and your partner are what is right. Of course there are more rules like you have to both be old and intelligent enough to understand consequences and able to take responsiblity for your mistakes. I always point out one couple I knew a while ago. they were married obiousily they really loved each other a lot, the thing is they somehow had no chemistry in bed none did nothing for each other. So that part of being in a commited relationship didn’t exsist for them so they “farmed” that part out. What I’am saying is you got respect yourselve and your partner and what ever works ain’t really my business cause I don’t have to live your life.

@mustangii Sounds good. I don’t fault anyone for their opinion. Snuff brings people of all kinds together!

Going on 16 years this time. 6 years of hell the first time. Not that this time has been trouble free. Few things are… I have it very good.

My wife and I will make our first year on the 22nd this month

33 years and 9 days.

Congratulation @ermtony for another awesome mile stone, And congratulation to all you other lucky lovers. May the love you share have a positive impact on those around you.

Congratulation @ermtony for another awesome mile stone, And congratulation to all you other lucky lovers. May the love you share have a positive impact on those around you.

LOL, reading too quickly I thought you wrote ‘awesome mill stone’

19 years. Complicated enough without polyamorousness, lol.

We hit 18 years in July. I’ve never second guessed it. Everyone said it wouldn’t last when we eloped after knowing each other only a couple months. Most of those “everyone’s” have been married and divorced since then. Shows what they know!

25 years, come December. She’s been putting up with me for a spell! Wouldn’t trade her for anything. Hopefully, she’ll never wake up and figure out she can do better!

My wife came downstairs last night to find me sitting at the kitchen table with an open tin of snuff, and a cup of tea, all teary-eyed. “What’s wrong? You ok?” she asked. I said, “remember that time when we first met and we made love in the back of your dad’s car in his garage?” She put her hand gently on my shoulder and said, “Of course I do honey, it was wonderful, how could I ever forget?” I went on, “remember how your dad burst in and caught us?” She sat down next to me and put her arm around me as I wiped my eyes, " Sure I do honey, that was so funny!" "Remember how he ran back into the house and came back with a shotgun shouting, “IF YOU DON’T MARRY MY DAUGHTER AFTER THIS I’LL MAKE SURE YOU DO AT LEAST 18 YEARS IN JAIL!!!” “Yeah”, she said, “Boy was he mad at us”. “Well”, I said wiping away the tears with a snuff covered tissue, “I’d have gotten out today”… =)) Just kidding guys - been with my better half now for 18 years, seen a lot of ups and downs but we still love and take care of each other…definitely not up for trade

yes, 40 years now Jaap Bes.

Never got married yet, but lived in sin a few times including being a kept man and that was absolutely great in retrospect. At the time I was stupidly proud.

10 years and two fantastic sons.

@AllanH You said ‘At the time I was stupidly proud’. Well, I’m proudly stupid. But I know what you mean, Jellybean. I’m still that way. I think I stay that way for my kid. Mortality dictates that nothing REALLY matters, but your happiness. Let’s you and me build that time machine thingy.

Yup, married. To a woman that has the patience of a Saint.

I am with my 5th wife (that is not a typo) We got together in 97 and married in 2005. Best relationship I ever had & know it will last forever. The rest were learning experiences (laughing because that is a lie) I am the type of person who will be honest and direct about my likes and dislikes. It makes it easy to understand me. My past wives all seemed to suffer from a disorder that makes them want to change you into something they want. I wouldn’t have a problem with adjustments if I would of known from the beginning the things you didn’t like but to wait until after a couple of years to say that something bothers you or you don’t like the way I dress, etc… is just a little to damn late.

@Matthefox I am with my 5th wife **So how is old Liz (Taylor) doing?**My past wives all seemed to suffer from a disorder that makes them want to change you into something they want It’s been said that women marry men hoping to change them, and men marry women hoping they won’t change. You sure seem to be an agreeable sort on this D group. I’m betting you look like Paul Newman or something.

Nineteen years! Today is our anniversary as a matter of fact. Great gal!

We have been together for 11 years and married for 8. If you both feel comfortable enough to fart in front of each other, its a lasting one

Congrats @Juxtaposer

Happy Anniversary @Juxtaposer and Ms. Juxtaposer!

Coming up on 34 years ,The wife left some 13+ years ,best thing that ever happen. I changed my life for the better. my spiritual adviser said if you don’t change, you will continue to make the same mistakes again. I am living today on borrowed time; the path I was traveling guaranteed an early demise as I watched my friends and acquaintances check out early. I have no intention on taken another hostage. I date and that is fine.

8 years and 3 kids.

im getting married in may. so dunno anything about marriage yet apart from its expensive lol

The only thing which bothers me about marriage is how you end up marrying the family too; and my in-laws are a little crazy. I shouldn’t really say anything bad about them though, my mother-in-law can be really nice at times, as a matter of fact she comes over to our house every year for Christmas dinner…this year I am even thinking about letting her in! =))

Married for eight years. Two young boys.

Married my current and third wife in 1999. No kids, although I do have a 22 year old daughter from my first marriage.

I’ve been married to the same few for a while. Married the first over 20 years ago and have always felt I would regret getting rid of her. So I’ve kept her around. Once you go black… Sigh. Truthfully I don’t ride her much anymore since I got the newest one. She is a dream. Keeps me warm and dry on crappy days. She can carry anything. She is big, bright and tough. Built for the long haul. Then there are the two divas of the group. In all fairness they aren’t high maintenance. But they get ALL the attention considering their rockstar status in the 70’s. Everywhere I take one of those two a line of drooling guys forms. All begging for pics of them on top. Some didn’t even speak English but the gestures are the same the world over. The huge smile, knowing gleam in the eye, and the universal wrist motion begging me to open her up and let her scream. Love them all equally. The adventures, the stories. Would not trade them for anything. In fact the only downside is they take up so much darn room. I have to park my truck in the driveway. I guess that’s a small price to pay for a stable full of Kwakas.

I’ve never been married and don’t have the urge, Mrs Pufnsnuff has been married for about 35 years but seperated from her husband about fifteen years ago. They get on ok with each other and are both too lazy to start divorce proceedings, so I think I’m safe. :))

30 yrs for my wife and I, She gave me a card on our last anniversary that said something like “isn’t it fitting that Mr Right should be Married to Mrs Always Right” All in good fun but in a way it sums up a lot about marriage.

I was married once and that was enough.

Coming up on 12 yrs. married. together 15 yrs. Two awesome boys. Better today, than yesterday and getting better as we go.

I’ve been married to my hand since puberty

@Mustangii. Congratulations. That’s wonderful. Never made the plunge myself, but I admire those who do.

im getting married in may. so dunno anything about marriage yet apart from its expensive lol

Not as expensive as divorce, believe me.

Not married; not believers - Have 15 years service in with this one though… A proper star in the dark nights of my life

Yes, 43 yrs

aug 21 will be 36 years.

I know I am resurrecting an old thread, 43 years together, 42.5 years married. remember Love is a verb not a feeling.

edm

@mustangii what a good thread to bring back from dead. Some you guys have many years under your belt that’s awesome. Me an my wife been married since October 2013. So that’s like around 7 years which I didn’t even realise it’s been that long and that fast. My wife will let me snuff and snus but not smoke or dip cuz she agree from what she looked at that it’s allot safer. I have cigs occasionally like today an she gets mad and she always says use my snuff. Hoping for many more happy years but the way it sounding is we all be dead from the virus going around in weeks cuz the Wal-Mart has no toilet paper.

This will be our fourteenth year of living he—I mean connubial bliss. I’ve grown rather fond of the old horse.

35 years together, 31 years married. Met when we were 19.

50 years this coming November

Married for 21 years…not once have I had a regretful thought. My wife is my best friend. She is the strongest person I know. We were not able to have children. We have our beloved Fur baby Asia, our cute Schnauzer. Life is good. I am blessed.

Was married for 6 years then found Crumbs of Comfort. Marriage was Specks of Misery.

24 years to a woman who is, 90% of the time, the sweetest person I have ever met. Remembering that makes the other 10% tolerable. Of course if it was 100% sweet that would probably be too boring

It will be our 20th anniversary in December. The most frightening and also the best thing I have ever done. I think she feels the same…!

will be 47 years August 21st.

23 GREAT years. My prior wife for 22, so am improving!!!

We’ll be celebrating our first wedding anniversary this year - we dated as teenagers, split up and found each other again 20+ years later
We tried to tie the knot sooner in to our 8 years together - first attempt was cancelled due to falling pregnant, second attempt was cancelled due to the COVID lockdowns and we successfully managed on our third-attempt (although we had to restart the ceremony due my mother being late).

Married for 2 years now and she hasn’t gotten sick of me yet!

Just gone five years, seems like it was yesterday that we met. Always try to enjoy every minute that I spend with her.

This is my 2nd marriage first one lasted 3 years. But Now coming up on my 10 year anniversary at the end of the month with the right one lol. She would like to thank all of you for letting me talk about snuff with all of you my tobacco enthusiasts as she is quite tired of hearing me talk about it non stop

That’s how I married my fist wife also my mother has been dating her 1st husband from 50+ years ago.

Today is my second wedding anniversary.